Trust is the glue that connects people, but to trust someone else, we first need to trust ourselves. We need to define and accept our values, self-worth, talents, and assets. To invest in a relationship with another person, we must know how much we’ve invested in the relationship with ourselves and whether there’s a balance.
We need to trust ourselves when we face conflict so we can endure the situation and hold ourselves and others accountable without breaking down. When we avoid conflicts, we create conflicts within ourselves. When we allow other people to step over our boundaries, we damage our relationships with them and with ourselves.
We can and should hold people of value accountable for their actions by forming relationship contracts with them. A relationship contract allows two responsible adults to agree on certain values, boundaries, and a framework of trust to build a healthy and successful relationship.