We need to trust ourselves when we face conflict so we can endure the situation and hold ourselves and others accountable without breaking down. When we avoid conflicts, we create conflicts within ourselves. When we allow other people to step over our boundaries, we damage our relationships with them and with ourselves.
To resolve internal conflicts, we need clarity on our motives and direction. To resolve external conflicts, we need clarity on other people’s motives and direction as well as our own.
Failure to resolve a conflict arises directly from an inability to see the situation or the partner clearly and moving away from each other instead of in the same direction.